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when will get to experience the joy of marriage and family ?
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missy35
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| 11 Dec 2008 11:16 PM |
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i am so tired of waiting and waiting and waiting. when will have the turn of picking my gown and making plans for a life forever with the right guy ? i am 35 and i still have not been married. i have been proposed to and told i love you so many times but yet it never follows through to marriage. either the man is married, dating, has a "complex occupation" and does not to get me involved in it, which i respect, or they ask themselves the same question, why is she not married, what's wrong with her ? how can i make the relationship from friend to wife stronger without forcing it ? could someone guide me into that direction ? help !! |
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Sharon
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| 12 Dec 2008 06:01 PM |
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Missy35,
Delay is not always denial! Cast your cares upon the Lord and tell Him everything you've said here and ask Him to lead and guide you in that direction. Marriage is not to be entered into lightly and not every man you date is husband material! That is why we need God's insight instead of what we think we know or what we see. We are easily deceived at times but God knows and sees all.
Don't get discouraged because you are 35 and single. Thank God for the good things in your life and learn to enjoy your singleness. Paul said in the Word of God that he had learned to be content in whatever state he found himself and that is what you need to do. There are specific advantages to being single just as there are advantages to being married, but whatever state we find ourselves, we should be thankful. In the state you are in now, you are able to give as much of your time to the Lord as you desire. Seek him first and all these other things will be added unto you!!!!
Your mate will come, but in the meantime, allow God to work on you. Allow him to develop you for that man He has for you! Don't buy into the lie of satan that there is a man shortage...there is never a shortage with God! Be patient and learn to thank Him in advance for what He is getting ready to do in your life!
I hope all works well for you, my sister!
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missy35
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| 15 Dec 2008 08:05 PM |
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i have tried to put my self into church when god blessed us with a new minister who was open for any member to come in and assist with the youth and elderly in any way neede. his wife, his mother, his wifes cousin and several members of the church would notice me there at teh church on other then sunday and asked me, "why was i there ?" and let me know that there was no reason for me to be there because they were there to handle it all. is there perhaps another route other then dedicating myself to church or maybe even a better way other then helping the youth and elderly ? i will say this, since i know now that i need to put all my free time into the church i will be there more often now. prayer meeting is on wednesday, i will shock his wife, his mother, his wifes cousin and several members by being there and doing it on my own. i will try that this week and get back to you on how it all went. thanks. |
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Event Shoppers
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| 17 Dec 2008 05:47 PM |
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Missy35,
Tell me....how are things in the very beginning? When you meet a guy, take me through the start of your attraction to a man, the 1st date when asked out and what goes through your head on that first date? What is your conversation like? Help me to understand the start of your new relaionships.
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missy35
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| 26 Dec 2008 03:47 PM |
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well first i have never been on a date. i have been stood up and i have asked if they would like to go out on a date and they always claim they have no money or they are busy with something else, example, children, mother, work or school. but when i am attracted to a man, i usually use more body language then words. i was always told that a woman is noticed not by voice but by her just simply being in the room. i don't ask out anymore but the converstation is usually about where we are, what we are doing and what we plan on doing perhaps that weekend and before the weekend is near i usually find out that the guy is already hooking up with someone else, that i usually know, or he is just simply not interested or my friend, or whom i think is my friend, introduces him to someone in her family and they usually get married and they get their happy ending.
so really there are only friendships, guy that i have met or guys that i was almost in a realitonship to that i can't ever speak to again cause the friend refuses for me to speak tothe guy since he and the realtive probably live together and are starting like is said a marriage together.
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Sharon
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| 29 Dec 2008 05:45 PM |
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Hi, Missy!
If the new minister's family is not open to others participation in various ministries within the church, look for ways to be active and to give back within your community. I don't fully understand why they would not want others to assist since the new pastor has welcomed volunteers, but, in the meantime, don't let that stop you from becoming involved in something positive.
As for attending church services, whether on Sundays or during the week, make sure you go for yourself and not to prove anything to anyone. Develop an intimate relationship with God for yourself and He will open the necessary doors for you.
Make sure you surround yourself with honest, positive people who will help you through the difficult periods of life and rejoice with you during your times of success and blessings! Everything will work out for you, Missy, I truly believe that. Just take it one day and one step at at time.
Take care,
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reddbone112
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| 05 Aug 2009 08:07 PM |
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The funny thing that I have learned is that in my eyes the lord gives you what he feels is meant for you and in due time. I will be thirty this year and at the age of 24 I had a son and got married to a great man. I would have never thought it would have happened but it did and I believe it happened because it was my time and I wasn't actually looking for it. I was taking care of my life and doing what worked for me. So you have to continue to do what works for you and allow yourself sometime to see what happens, marriage is not for everyone. Marriage is something that you have to enter with an open heart and mind because the days are not always sunny. I know you maybe tired of hearing be patient but someone may come along for you when the time is right. Be grateful and thank the lord for the positive things that you do have in your life focus on the positive always and not the negative. I wish you lots of luck. |
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